What to Do If a Student Walks Out of Your Pole Class
Simone Muscat
9th July 2024
It happens to every instructor at some point in their journey; you’re mid-class, guiding your students through a move, when you notice someone quietly gathering their things and slipping out the door. Your heart sinks. Did they feel uncomfortable? Were they frustrated? Are they injured? Did something happen in the class that made them want to leave? While it’s natural to feel concerned, remember that pole dancing is a deeply personal journey, and emotions can run high. The key is to handle the situation with care, ensuring your student feels supported while maintaining the energy of the class.
Stay Calm and Keep the Energy Positive
The first instinct might be to panic or assume you’ve done something wrong, but take a deep breath – there are countless reasons a student might leave. They could be overwhelmed, frustrated, dealing with personal challenges, or just having an off day. Instead of focusing on their departure, keep your energy warm and encouraging for the rest of the class. Your students will take cues from you, and a calm, reassuring presence helps maintain a safe and supportive learning space.
Reach Out with Kindness, Not Pressure
Once class is over, take a moment to check in with the student in a way that feels natural and non-confrontational. A simple message like, “Hey [Name], I noticed you had to step out today. Just wanted to check in and see if you’re okay. No pressure – just know I’m here if you need anything” can mean the world to someone who may be struggling. This approach lets them know they are valued without making them feel embarrassed or obligated to explain.
Create an Open and Judgment-Free Space
One of the best things you can do as an instructor is foster an environment where students feel safe to be vulnerable. Remind them that progress isn’t always linear, and that tough days are completely normal. Sharing personal stories of your own struggles with pole to your students, whether it was a move that felt impossible or a day where you doubted yourself, can help normalise their experience and make them feel less alone.
Encourage Self-Compassion and Growth
If a student returns, welcome them back with warmth and reassurance rather than drawing attention to their previous departure. A simple “Glad to have you back!” is enough. If they don’t return, understand that their journey may be taking a different path right now. What matters most is that you created a space where they felt seen and supported, whether they choose to continue or not. As instructors, our role isn’t just to teach movement, it’s to create a safe environment, nurture confidence, resilience, and self-love in every student who steps into our class.
Encourage Your Students to Seek Professional Support
As instructors, we are often the first point of contact when our students are struggling, whether it’s physically or mentally. If you notice a student having a difficult time in class, whether with injury or their own mental health, it’s important to gently encourage them to seek support from a healthcare professional. Whether it’s a physiotherapist for injury concerns or a psychologist for mental health support, having someone they can talk to or who can provide expert care can make a huge difference. Let them know that seeking help is a strength, and they don’t have to face challenges alone. By fostering an environment where self-care and seeking support are normalised, you create a space where your students feel empowered to look after themselves, both inside and outside the studio.
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